I go on record as saying that 2017 was one hell of a topsy-turvy year on so many levels. It was, to be perfectly honest, a time when old notions were shattered and I felt like I was left reeling from the impact. Still, a rather interesting year all around.
Which brings us to these: the life lessons I picked up at various points in 2017. We are now two weeks into the new year, but perhaps these can serve as a starting point for something new for many of us.
What is for you will never pass you by If you’re meant to have something, you’re going to end up getting it regardless of what may happen. In my case, it was an assignment that dropped into my lap from out of the blue. In the weeks prior to the assignment itself, there were a number of setbacks and I was pretty sure I wasn’t going to go where I wanted to go. Fortunately, things fell into place almost at the very last minute; so there.
It ALWAYS pays to be kind. And cheerful. And grateful – regardless of what some spoilt millenials say Also: remember that there are words like “please,” and “thank you.” Use them. You don’t have to be a b*tch to people to get the results that you want. Remember that old saw about catching more flies with honey than with vinegar? Principle applies here. Which brings us to…
A sincere smile trumps resting b*tch face EVERY SINGLE TIME – even if said b*tch face is perfectly made up I don’t get why many younger people insist on putting on a poker face or, worse, a full-on scowl when dealing with people. Also, I guess cosmetic manufacturers are making a killing from younger women who insist on plastering their faces up with tons of make-up – when, in truth, they don’t really need the stuff. God.
Give up those things – or people – who make your life toxic Even if you’ve known them for years, if these people have caused you nothing but pain or grief, drop them now. Don’t torture yourself with their presence. Or their caustic remarks about you. Or the way they sneer at you behind your back. You deserve a life unencumbered by toxicity. Drop them, end of story.
Knowing a different language (or several) is a great ice breaker when on assignment here and abroad Also, gravitate towards people who share interests with you – always a good thing.
Always keep an open mind…and an open heart as you never know who you’re going to meet Enough said.
Just accept every assignment you are given and learn from it Don’t be picky about your assignments. Especially in a field like mine, you just go where you’re asked to go and do what you’re asked to do. If it feels like an imperial pain at first, just get it over and done with. You’ll realise it would all be worth it in the long run.
Make some goodbyes permanent Refer to Item #4. Delete them from your social media. Stop following them on social media. Stop hanging out with them. FORGET THEM.
Stay curious AND stay focused Always be willing to learn and to be exposed to new experiences. You’ll come away richer in terms of wisdom and, if you’re lucky, wealth.
Never forget to pray Always thank the Higher Power for everything you get – good and bad. Always be grateful. Get down on your knees and ask for help whenever necessary; you’re only human – and there is only so much you can do.
Happy New Year, everyone. I hope it turns out to be a spectacular one for all of us.